WOW! DAY 31!
I must say, this process was one of the hardest thing I ever had to do. If I’m going to be truthful, I wasn’t sure what to expect when I started but I’m glad I did and I thank you for sticking with me and reading each of my post!
Self love is one of the most beautiful thing you’ll ever experience. For me, It wasn’t something that happened overnight. Even though I would tell myself “I love you” I still didn’t believe it, I had to realize the difference between saying the words and actually feeling and believing them.
I can’t say I looked for love in all the wrong places because I avoided love at all cost but I gravitated to people who were like me. People who were broken because I wanted to fix them. I wanted to fixed the things broken inside them because the same things were broken inside of me.
I believe everything happens for a reason and everyone I’ve had the chance of being with up to this point in my life helped me in so way or another. Through them I learned the importance of loving yourself. Not just the definition but what It means to actually love yourself as a person, a human being, and how I wanted to be loved in return.
I truly believe once we have an understanding of who we are, and we’re no longer hiding behind the masks we put on, we can open up doors to unimaginable happiness and joy.
I always thought loving yourself means you have high self-esteem, but self love means so much more than having self-esteem. It’s something only you can discover for yourself and I hope if you haven’t already, that one day you will.
Here are some ways to help you practice self love:
- Start each day by telling yourself something positive.
- Surround yourself with people who love and encourage you.
- Don’t compare yourself to others. There’s no one like you. The only person you should compare yourself to is you.
- End toxic relationships. Anyone who makes you feel anything less than amazing doesn’t deserve to be a part of your life.
- Pat yourself on the back and be proud of your accomplishments no matter how small or big.
- Step outside of your comfort zone and try something new. It’s incredible feeling you get when you realize we have achieved something you didn’t know or think you could do before.
- Love your flaws and imperfections.
- Embrace and love the things that makes you different.
- Remember that beauty cannot be defined. Beauty is how we view things. Don’t be fooled by photo-shopped magazines, not even models look like that in real life.
- Self-love is ever evolving. It’s something that needs to be practiced daily but can take a lifetime to master. So don’t be hard on yourself. Be patient.
- Treat others the way you want to be treated.
- You are not expected to go through them alone. Find someone you can trust and talk to them.
- Learn to say no. Saying no sometimes doesn’t make you a bad person
- Forgive yourself. It’s time to let it go. You can’t change the things you have done in the past but you can control your future. Look at it as a learning experience and believe in your ability to change.
- Keep a journal, Write it down, no matter how crazy, mean, sad, or terrifying the things you feel.
- “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” — Dita Von Teese Not everyone is gonna like you and that’s okay. You don’t need others approval.
- Be realistic. No one on this earth is happy every moment of every day. Why? We are human. We make mistakes, we feel emotions (good and bad) and that’s OK. Allow yourself to be human.
- Let it go, let it go. Let go of past trauma and wounds. It won’t be easy but once you let it all go, you will feel like a weight have been lifted off your shoulders. Stop carrying it around. You deserve better.
- Find your happy place. I call it a bubble. My Happy Bubble. It’s secret and only a few people are allowed there. It’s the one place I go to feel totally at ease, calm, happy, positive and high on life. Sometimes when I’m going through a stressful situation I think about my bubble to help me get through it.
- And lastly, don’t forget to have fun. Life is meant to be enjoyed, not endured.