“Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
If you didn’t know, now you do.
There’s no one else in this world like you, even if you have a twin.
Your personality and quarks makes you one of a kind.
We all have our insecurities but don’t let it control you. Sure, most girls wanna look like Beyonce, Nicki Minaj and Kim Kardashian but there’s only one Trudean Haye and I’m perfectly fine with being myself.
Of course that wasn’t always the case.
Even though I had self-esteem, I still compared myself with model in the magazines and even some of my peers. Whether it was thinking about how much more beautiful they were, or that they had better skin than I did (I hated my scars) or even the fact that the person I liked preferred to be with someone else. I would compare myself to them and in return I started to dislike my flaws and imperfections even more.
The moment I fell in love with myself, I realized that even though I may not have flawless skin or perfectly arched eyebrows, there was no one else in this world like me.
Not because I like someone, doesn’t mean they’re gonna like me back and that's okay because not everyone drinks the same cup of tea. I had to fall in love with myself to realized that beauty on the outside does not reflect beauty on the inside.
STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS AND START LOVING WHO YOU ARE!
No matter who you are, at some point we all used to compare ourselves to others. We all had things we liked about someone else, and as a teen it can be hard to maintain self-confidence and not have low self esteem. But trust me when I tell you this, the grass always look greener on the other side. If we’re constantly watching and comparing our grass to others, we might miss the fact that flowers are growing on our grass. (don’t laugh at my grass analogy)
It’s easy to find things about ourselves that we don’t like, but if you start looking at yourself through the eyes of love...WOW
Imagine being in love with someone and you want to do everything and anything to make them happy, that warm fuzzy feeling you get when they tell you something sweet or do nice things for you. Now imagine that person is YOU! You’re feeling these things about yourself.
I am able to love abundantly today because I know what it feels like to be in love with myself. I am able to love others unconditionally because I love myself unconditionally.
Just thinking about it now, I wished I had discovered self love sooner.
We all have insecurities, we all compare ourselves to someone else (even the prettiest girls and guys do it too) but when you start falling in love with yourself, the only person you’re going to want to be like IS YOU.
Self love doesn’t happen overnight.
I appreciate others beauty but I love mine even more.