Stop living in the past. 

It will cripple you. 

Of course it’s natural for us to question ourselves and the decisions we’ve made in our lives but should’ve, could’ve, would’ve isn’t going to fix the past or the choices we made.

Looking back, I used to wonder where my life was going. I regretted many things and I resented many people. I even resented myself. Life was passing me by while I was living in the past. Instead of accepting my past, I hated everything about it. 

I was stuck, I couldn’t move on. 

My past was the enemy.

I thought because of my past, I was unlovable, broken and unwanted. I had to come to the realization that I am who I am today because I choose to be this way not because my past made me this way. 

I define myself and my life. 

Hate is easy. Fear is crippling and learning to love yourself is not always an easy process. It took me a while to get to this place in my life because one of the scariest things to realize about yourself is that you have the ability to move forward but choose not to. 

The moment we choose to let go and accept our past, we let go of fear and hatred. And, In that moment we choose to let go, we regain control over ourselves. We no longer give others or our past mistakes/choices power over us. 

YOU hold the key to your happiness. 

Our past does not define us, so don’t let yours define you. 

Yes, mistakes were made but lessons were also learned. 

Stop being a slave to your past and start being the author of your future. 

You are not the choices you’ve made.

You are not the child you once were.

You are not your failed marriage.

You are not the setbacks of yesterday.

You are not the bad things that have happened to you.

“When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.” – Alexander Graham Bell

Update, February 2021: Due to a server crash, I lost 80% of my blog content. At first I was extremely sad because all my comments, views and status was lost. But, I try to find the silver lining and accept that everything happens for a reason. I wrote a 31 days of self love post in 2017. Some content were able to be saved others wasn't. I chose to share what remained because it helped so many people opened up.

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